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I have been attending Simbang Gabi this week. It is a Filipino Advent tradition where you go to Mass for 9 days before Christmas. In the Philippines, it happens in the early morning hours, 4:30 or 5 am. Those hours don't work here, so they hold it in the evening. The Masses are coordinated by the various filipino groups in the church. Because I am the "liturgist" for the parish, I assist them by making sure they have what they need.

My wife is from the Philippines, and so this gives me some entry into the filipino community. Filipinos have all sorts of little clubs and organizations, and there is always some party or event going on. I get invited to a lot of these things, but am really never asked to join anything, which is OK with me.

As I was setting up the Mass last night, it occurred to me that my wife is really never invited to join any of these organizations either. It's kind of unusual, because we have a lot of friends who belong. I began to wonder if they don't invite her because she is married to me. When I got home last night I asked her if she had ever considered this. She replied with something like, "I don't give a shit what they think", and didn't want to talk about it any more.

I'm just not sure what to think about this.