58002--Dinner with the girls
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zyzylyFor the first time in a long time, I spent Christmas with Arlina's family. Malida has always been a little reluctant--kind of stepping into the shadow of a ghost. Last year though, when we called to wish them all a Merry Christmas, Malida spontaneously told Nanay that we would be there the next year, and so we were. It was a lot of fun, and good to see everyone.
Here is the family shot. Everyone is so big now. I grew a mustache for Movember, and it is pretty much all white, which makes me look a lot like my grandpa.
All the girls were there, and it was the first time I had seen them all together in close to 10 years. We made arrangements to meet for dinner later in the week.
If you read my old journal, you will remember them as the girls who were always at our house. They generally spent the summers with us, and we would go out on adventures.
When Arlina was sick, the older girls spent a lot of time helping me take care of her. The oldest was about 14 when Arlina died.
Anyway, I had a purpose for taking them to dinner, beyond just taking them for dinner. Ten years ago, a few days before she died, Arlina told me she wanted her rings to go to the girls. We pulled them out and she decided who would get which one. She asked me to wait until they were grown up.
I decided this was the time. I wrapped up the rings and gave them to the girls after dinner. I told them where each ring came from, and what it meant to their aunt. It was a lovely moment, and not one of us took pictures.
I did take a picture of them at Christmas, though. Want to see what they look like all grown up?
From left, Candyd, who lives in San Diego and is a pre-med student. Hanna, the youngest. She is going to school in Santa Barbara, and has a nice boyfriend. I am betting she is the first one to get married. Joyce, who works at a modeling agency. Harley, who lives in town and is the one I see most often. She has a nice boyfriend too, and works at Nordstrom. She's not sure what she wants to do with her life.
It was a good Christmas.
Here is the family shot. Everyone is so big now. I grew a mustache for Movember, and it is pretty much all white, which makes me look a lot like my grandpa.
All the girls were there, and it was the first time I had seen them all together in close to 10 years. We made arrangements to meet for dinner later in the week.
If you read my old journal, you will remember them as the girls who were always at our house. They generally spent the summers with us, and we would go out on adventures.
When Arlina was sick, the older girls spent a lot of time helping me take care of her. The oldest was about 14 when Arlina died.
Anyway, I had a purpose for taking them to dinner, beyond just taking them for dinner. Ten years ago, a few days before she died, Arlina told me she wanted her rings to go to the girls. We pulled them out and she decided who would get which one. She asked me to wait until they were grown up.
I decided this was the time. I wrapped up the rings and gave them to the girls after dinner. I told them where each ring came from, and what it meant to their aunt. It was a lovely moment, and not one of us took pictures.
I did take a picture of them at Christmas, though. Want to see what they look like all grown up?
From left, Candyd, who lives in San Diego and is a pre-med student. Hanna, the youngest. She is going to school in Santa Barbara, and has a nice boyfriend. I am betting she is the first one to get married. Joyce, who works at a modeling agency. Harley, who lives in town and is the one I see most often. She has a nice boyfriend too, and works at Nordstrom. She's not sure what she wants to do with her life.
It was a good Christmas.
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Date: 2015-01-02 11:24 pm (UTC)Nice to see you writing Mike! <3
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Date: 2015-01-03 03:11 pm (UTC)If Arlina is alive to you and she accepts Malida as your new wife, then Malida has the option of feeling loved and accepted as part of Arlina's extended family. I think it is an enviable position.
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Date: 2015-01-04 07:35 am (UTC)I always wondered about that with Carl's stepmom, too - his dad remains pretty close to his mom's family, and it's been interesting to watch that dynamic, although we watch it from afar so it's hard to say what it's like for his stepmom or his dad or whoever. I'm glad Malida was on board with visiting them.
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